Conversations with Keanue

Blog posts and notes from regular Conversations with Keanue about High Performance Coaching, PTSD, and Being Bold Being Sincere, and Being You.

The Face of PTSD

 

     A coworker found out that I have PTSD. He made a joke. “I better not piss you off because you might start flipping over tables and killing people.” I know he meant it as a joke, but it wasn’t funny. It’s this type of stigma that makes people not want to admit they have a problem and seek help. No one wants to be thought of as a person that can’t control their anger or as a person on the verge of snapping. It made me ask him what comes to his mind when he thought of PTSD. I was curious. He said whenever he heard of PTSD it was usually because a person had hurt somebody, or was always on the verge of an outburst. I asked him if he got that impression from me, before he found out I had PTSD, and he said no. So I asked him if he would really tread lightly around me and he said he would not walk on eggshells, but he would definitely be more aware of my moods.

     It saddened me that he was so ignorant of the nature of...

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In the Face of Disaster

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     In the face of tragedy we are often too shocked to think beyond the devastating feeling that life will never be the same, to focus on what we can do now. The future seems bleak, when we look at all that has been lost,  and all we have to do to rebuild. Thinking beyond the next meal or where we are to lay our heads, doesn't even seem realistic.  Nevertheless  that is exactly where we have to look,  if we don’t want to stay in the position we are in, longer than necessary. We can focus on two things to get us out of tragedy and start on the road to recovery. Resources and mindset.

     All may not be totally lost. We have to look at what resources we have outside if the clothes on our backs. What’s salvageable? What do we have in the way of finances? What skills do we have that will help us earn money or that we can barter for resources? Secondly we need to look at what resources are available from outside...

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Start Where You Are

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     It's so easy for people to say I'm going to start as soon as... Fill in the blank. This can be anything from starting a new venture, to starting a diet.  That blank that you just filled in is only a code word for fear and insecurity.  It's just an excuse we give ourselves, not to do something we know we should stop putting off.  I know I've put off starting a diet or a workout until the next Sunday or Monday. The premise that I used to give myself for this self deception was that I wanted to start in the beginning of he week.  Why?  Why did I do this to myself?  Because I was lazy?  I didn't really feel like doing it? Or I thought I would fail?  I could have said it was one of the first two excuses but, if I'm honest it was really the latter.

        I was afraid that if I put in all the work of portion control and exercise and didn't get the results, I would have just wasted time and energy for nothing....

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